Valentines Day….

I love Valentines Day! I know people say Valentines Day is a commercial holiday, it means more when that special person shows you they love you on random days and I agree. But let’s face it, we all get busy with life and sometimes showing that person we love them isn’t as high up on the priority list as it should be. I think of Valentines Day as a reminder to do something special for the ones you love. And who doesn’t love a day full of flowers, candy and love notes?? It brings out the hopeless romantic in me!

I have to confess, I went a little overboard this year with Valentines for the kids at Tyler’s daycare but this is the first year he gets excited about stuff like that! I had so much fun doing it! Tyler is going to freak out when he sees the large stuffed minion he is getting. Good thing we are giving the kids their valentines tonight since we don’t have Aaron tomorrow because I would probably give in and give it to him early.


I had gotten Jim a few little things and his yearly big bag full of candy but I was trying to think of something special to do this year. I saw on Pinterest (what did we do before pinterest) a mason jar titled “Reasons I love you”, in it was candy and cut out hearts with the reasons written on them. I set out to do 50 reasons but ended up with 61. I wrote 50 on the original paper but when I was writing them on the hearts I kept thinking of more. I love this because writing them was like a reminder to myself of all the reasons I love him. I am shocked I actually did this because I am usually a Pinterest pinner and hardly ever a Pinterest doer. It turned out cute!


If everything goes well we should actually get to go out and celebrate this Valentines Day. We haven’t had a date night in a while and we are itching to get out kid free. I love our date nights, we don’t get enough of them.

Whether you love Valentines Day or not, I hope you have a FABULOUS Valentines Day!

“The minute I heard my first love story I started looking for you, not knowing how blind that was. Lovers don’t finally meet somewhere. They’re in each other all along.” -Jalal ad-Din Rumi


Being “in love”….

“Love is a temporary madness, it erupts like volcanos and then subsides.  You have to work out whether your roots have so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because that is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion, it is not the desire to mate every second of every day, it is not lying awake at night imagining that he is kissing every cranny of your body. No, don’t blush, I am telling you some truths. That is just being “in love”, which any fool can do. Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident.”

Falling in love is one of the most powerful, exciting, and exilerating times two people can have together. It is an amazing feeling to have your every thought consumed by another person. Learning about that person and spending hours and hours talking to each other. Falling in love is hopeful. Falling in love is passionate. But the all consuming feeling of falling in love is not one that lasts. You have to have a strong enough bond to love each other through real life. Because eventually you get comfortable with each other and you stop spending every second trying to impress each other. You see each other at your lowest of lows and it isn’t pretty or romantic. The challenge is to keep some of that romance and passion alive even when things become mundane and routine. It isn’t easy to find romance when you have kids, jobs, mortgage payments…etc.

One of the things I think it most important in my relationship is keeping the romance alive. Our “falling in love stage” was incredible. We fell so hard for each other and I have never felt about anyone the way I feel about Jim. It was an incredible time. It’s those memories I turn to when we have harder times. It reminds me of the things I love about him when they are a little harder to see.

Jim and I went through a lot of hard times, most of which were brought on ourselves, but we survived and are so much stronger because of it. We are both stubborn, pig headed, opinionated and we can have fights that would make your head spin. Sometimes we are not the best at being grateful for the little things we do for each other. We are essentially the same person in that we like our space and we don’t feel the need to talk everything to death. We can both be a little selfish and it can be hard to live with someone who is so much like you. But Jim and I have fun together, we take the time to be romantic. We take the time for us and that is why I think our relationship will last.  You go through your highs and your lows together and hopefully they make you stronger. Our past has made us stronger.

Relationships are so interesting. They are so complex and so different person to person. No one really knows what someone’s marriage or relationship is like unless you are in it. Relationships are forever changing and evolving, like people. I think to make a relationship last you have to take inventory at times of what’s going well and what isn’t. You have to work together to make your relationship better. But most of all you have to want to make your relationship better.

I know a lot of people who are going through hard times in their relationships. Some of those people will survive the hard times and work on the problems. Some of them are past that point and they will go their own ways. Neither path is an easy one. Both involve a lot of soul searching and hard work.

In the end you have to do what makes YOU happy. You are responsible for your own happiness and life is too short to be anything but happy.